Losing Weight with Love or Fear

Losing Weight with Love or Fear

What role does polarity play in health-oriented intentions such as the desire to lose weight?  Does polarity have a practical application to something like weight loss?

Let’s say you want to lose weight, so you form the following intention, where 140 pounds represents your goal weight: You weigh 170 pounds.

Now what is the polarity of this intention?  Is this a love-based (outflowing) intention or a fear-based (inflowing) intention?

The correct answer is that it’s a trick question.

Remember that polarity applies only to a thought’s energy, not its content.  So the mere text of a thought doesn’t dictate the thought’s polarity.

The specific words you use to phrase an intention do not matter much compared to the energy you put into the thought.  An intention like “I weigh 170 pounds” can be either polarity or it can be neutral.  It depends on why you want the weight loss.

Do you want to lose weight because you’ll gain more energy to serve others?  Or do you want to lose weight because you’ll gain more energy to pursue your self-centered goals.

Maybe you want to lose weight because it will help you attract someone.  But do you want to attract someone  because you want to express your love with that person?  Or are you afraid of being alone?

Love and Fear

Our motivations for an intention can be complex.  You might have a dozen reasons for wanting to lose weight.  But ultimately when you keep asking, “Why do I want this?”, you’ll end up with a combination oflove- and fear-based motives.  Either you want something because of your desire, or you want it because of your

Fear and love are powerful motivators, but when you mix them together, they dilute each other.  Intentions of mixed polarity are shoulds.  Fully polarized intentions are musts.

Powerful Motivators

Suppose you are a lightworker, and you realize that you need to lose weight. You would want to serve as a positive role model for others.  You would also want to have energy available for fulfilling your purpose.  You’d also want to feel good about your body.  The fitness level you achieve for yourself is driven by your desire to serve and inspire others.  This is a very powerful motivator.

Now suppose you are a darkworker, and you realize that you need to lose some weight.  Your motivation to lose that weight will come from your commitment to serving your own self-interest.  You could care less about being a role model for others.  You need energy to achieve the success you crave, and a better looking body will make it easier to attract other people.  Weight loss may also help you advance in your career. The fitness you achieve is driven by your desire to serve your own needs.  How fit or fat other people are is irrelevant.  This also is a very powerful motivator.

Now the interesting thing is that the lightworker and the darkworker may go on the same diet, adopt the same exercise program, and achieve a similar level of fitness.  But they’ll each be doing it for very different reasons.  Our lightworker is driven by the desire to serve and inspire others, while our darkworker is driven by the competitive desire to dominate others.  So our lightworker would be more inclined to help others lose weight.  Our darkworker would only help others for personal gain.

Most likely you’re neither a lightworker or a darkworker, but you can still apply polarity to an intention to lose weight to make it easier to succeed.

Losing weight with love

To lose weight in a love-polarized way, you might form a support group of people who also want to lose weight.  You would commit yourself to their weight loss as well as your own. This commitment to helping others is going to boost your own motivation for losing weight.  It’s no longer a should — it’s a must.  People are looking up to you as their role model.

Losing weight with fear

Now how would you lose weight with fear polarization?  Forget about helping others.  This is all about you — your pleasure and your pain.  In this case you’ll use fear to create more pressure, so you’re driven to succeed, make a bet with someone you dislike that you’ll achieve your goal by a certain date. For good measure, promise yourself a vacation or some other reward when your goal is achieved.  Think often of how hot you’ll look to members of the opposite sex (or same sex).

A blended approach?

The problem with mixing both of these polarities together is that they’ll dilute each other, so your motivation will be greatly reduced.  A single polarity provides a level of clarity and focus that drives you with much greater intensity. How can you express love and fear at the same time?

You see… in order to use fear polarization, you have to hold a mindset that’s inconsistent with love polarization, and vice versa, it simply doesn’t work. You’ll get the best results if your underlying motivation is either service or selfishness. Nevertheless, if you still think a blended approach will work, go ahead and try it for yourself.

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